Golden Bridge Tantra
Golden Bridge Tantra
Overview
This is a tantric meditation that uses sexual energy as a pathway to expanded awareness and spiritual realization. The practice involves two partners working together to circulate life force energy through their bodies, ultimately leading to profound states of consciousness and spiritual realization.
In our current age, caught between Disney fantasy on one side and pornography on the other, this practice offers profound healing for our confused understanding of sexuality and relationship. Through direct experience, it helps us distinguish between sex, romance, intimacy, relationship, practice, partnership, trust, and authentic relating between the sexes. This practice serves as a balm for our inflamed knot of approval-seeking, attempts to belong through sex, submission, and manipulation, dissolving the confusion of never knowing who is right, what is right, or why.
This approach uses sexual energy in an entirely new way: to focus, to raise our awareness, and to give us a glimpse into what is actually real. And it's a lot more fun than sitting on a mountain by oneself.
The journey progresses through distinct phases: establishing safety and trust, learning to work with sexual energy without climax, circulating energy between bodies, and potentially reaching transcendent states of unity consciousness.
Phase 1: Preparation and Foundation
Understanding the Core Principle: No Fluid Exchange
This practice requires that no bodily fluids be exchanged between partners. When fluids are shared, it creates an energetic merging where you begin to experience your partner's emotional patterns and traumas. This can make people contract energetically, blocking the free flow of life force that this practice depends upon. Be religious about these boundaries. Once liquids are exchanged, the nature of the relating shifts drastically and the practice is no longer possible.
Comprehensive Fluid Exchange Protocol
During practice sessions:
Always wear a condom
If a condom breaks, use a douche immediately
No oral sex
No kissing
No sharing of any fluids whatsoever
Extended Lifestyle Restrictions
Energetic Protection and Vulnerability
Once we start to move large amounts of energy, we begin to feel euphoric and attract all sorts of entities that can be transferred through liquid exchange. Getting a dose of someone else's emotions in your cleared energetic space can set you back weeks, months, or if you do not even understand what happened, even years. This is why the fluid exchange restrictions are not merely precautionary but absolutely essential for protecting your energetic work.
Throughout the practice period, it is best to keep no liquid exchange with everyone in your life except committed partners. This means:
No sharing drinks or utensils (same spoon, etc.)
No sharing smoking materials (blunts, joints, pipes)
No kissing (except committed partners)
Essential Lifestyle Requirements
Daily Movement Practice
Practitioners must have some sort of daily flow practice like yoga, running, swimming, or similar movement work. Otherwise, the energy feels like a swamp, very hard to move. This daily practice keeps your energetic system clear and flowing.
Substance Restrictions
Practitioners cannot smoke anything or drink anything that would block the flow of life force. This includes alcohol, marijuana, or any other consciousness-altering substances that could interfere with the subtle energy work. This is not forever, but you have to give this work the best chance to succeed.
Session Timing and Preparation
Optimal Timing
It's important not to engage simply to be nice or to please the other. Both partners must genuinely feel the energetic call to practice. Sessions only take place when both partners feel their libido rising.
Session Duration Evolution
Beginner sessions typically last 1 to 2 hours as you build capacity and trust. Advanced sessions can extend to 15 hours, not because you intend this, but because all of a sudden 15 hours have passed and you don't know where they went due to altered time perception.
Day-of Preparation Protocol
Sessions are usually in the evening (PM) in case it runs long.
Light meal (avoid heavy eating)
Strength workout to raise testosterone
Cold shower before the session
Coordinate which body oils are most appealing to both partners
Begin with light massage and slowly transition into the practice
Session Frequency
Sessions typically occur every 2 to 3 days, based on libido rather than a rigid schedule. After the initial 3 to 4 weeks of practice, couples' libidos begin to synchronize.
Choosing the Right Partner
The ideal partner for this practice is someone you feel neutral toward, neither repulsed by nor infatuated with. This neutrality is crucial because strong attraction can create distracting thoughts about performance or approval-seeking, and repulsion creates energetic blocks that prevent the practice from working. Neutrality allows you to focus entirely on the energy work itself.
Trust has to be earned and tuned into. Both partners need to release projections and expectations about sex and relationships to engage in this practice as a pure spiritual discipline like yoga. No attachments, no expectations, no demands, just earnest showing up and doing your best to open, open, open.
Establishing Sacred Agreement
Before beginning, both partners must clearly understand and agree that this is a spiritual practice, and we commit to no attachment. This is not recreational sex nor a romantic relationship. Both are committed to keeping their word to each other, earning each other's trust that is essential in the final stages of the work.
Phase 2: Physical Setup and Energy Circulation
Positioning and Eye Contact
We always practice in the missionary position because throughout the whole session, we need to remain looking into each other's eyes. Do not close your eyes. Do not let your partner disappear inward into fantasy or dissociation. Stay present and keep your partner present.
After a while, you will immediately know when your partner's attention begins to shift away from presence. Bring them back into the present moment by softly saying "open, open, open" while opening and running energy yourself.
The Microcosmic Orbit: Understanding Energy Flow
The core of this practice is circulating life force energy between both bodies in a continuous loop.
Male's Role
Push energy down through the penis into the female's vagina
Receive energy into the heart from the female
Send that heart energy back down to the penis to complete the circuit
Female's Role
Open the vagina to receive energy from the male
Draw that energy up to the heart center
Push this energy from the heart into the male's heart
Tracking the Energy
We already discussed the importance of staying present and maintaining eye contact. Now we will add tracking the energy flow.
While moving and maintaining eye contact, both partners try to feel where the energy is moving in themselves and in the other.
Visualization Technique
It's useful to visualize the movement of the energy to make it easier to track the flow. Start by visualizing the orbit of the energy moving through both bodies like a circuit. Place an imaginary ping-pong ball into that orbit and simply keep track of where the ping-pong ball is moving in the circuit. Focus on following this ball as it travels down through the male's penis, into the female's vagina, up to her heart, across to his heart, and back down to complete the loop.
While doing this, keep the thought "open, open, open" in your mind. If you notice your partner struggling to stay open, you can also gently say this aloud to remind both of you that what you are really doing is opening all the way out while maintaining the sexual energy flow to generate more life force awareness that leads to greater realization of the ultimate truth.
Identifying and Clearing Blocks
Common male pattern: easy to send energy through the penis, difficult to open the heart and receive
Common female pattern: easy to open the heart and send energy, challenging to fully open and receive through the vagina
When either person contracts or blocks, energy concentrates instead of flowing. This often triggers the male's desire to orgasm as a way to release stored energy. The goal is maintaining smooth, even circulation rather than accumulation or forcing.
The Stop Protocol
When either partner (usually the male, as it's typically harder for males not to orgasm in the beginning) says "stop," all movement ceases immediately. No exceptions, no pushing forward, no "just a little more." Even one movement past the word "stop" can destroy weeks of trust-building. This discipline is essential for the practice's success.
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Phase 3: Building Trust Through Edging Practice
Edging Practice
Edging is the practice of staying at the edge of orgasm without going over. How long it takes to move past the orgasmic urge varies for each person and situation. Patience is absolutely essential. This cannot be rushed.
The Plateau Development
With consistent practice, the orgasmic plateau begins to rise and expand. What once triggered immediate climax becomes a sustainable state of heightened arousal. Eventually, the edge disappears entirely, allowing for extended periods of high-energy connection.
Recognizing the Energetic Shift
Once you no longer need to slow down out of fear of orgasming and become able to go at full speed, you will notice that the energy you're receiving becomes a lot greater than what you're expending. This indicates you've moved beyond personal energy exchange and begun tapping into universal life force. This moment marks a significant breakthrough in the practice.
Phase 4: Expanded States of Consciousness
The Golden Energy Experience
As the practice deepens and energy flows freely, practitioners often start to perceive the orbiting life force as liquid gold with a distinctive feel and taste. This is the Golden Bridge.
In these states:
Time perception shifts dramatically (hours feel like minutes)
Awareness becomes heightened and blissful
The blissful state can persist for three to four days after practice
Connection to universal life force becomes palpable
Enjoy this phase fully.
The All-Mother Opening
As the female partner continues opening without contracting or shutting down, she opens into what's called the All-Mother, a vast, nurturing, universal feminine presence that transcends her individual identity.
Important note: as the female opens into the All-Mother, the male experiences a regression back to being an infant in response. No erection, no sexual activity is possible for him at this stage. This is how male and All-Mother energy naturally interact.
Sacred Regression
In the presence of the All-Mother energy, the male partner starts to experience regression back to earlier states of being.
The Regression Process
Return to infancy (which can feel very vulnerable; all that trust earned earlier in practice begins to pay off)
Maternal nurturing, the female is encouraged to nurture this state, perhaps offering her breast for suckling as a mother would
Womb experience, with deeper opening, the regression continues back through the womb experience
Pure spirit emergence, finally, the male emerges as pure spirit before incarnation
The Ultimate Realization
Through direct experience rather than intellectual understanding, practitioners discover the male, as male form, emerges from the female principle, and the answer to the age-old question "what comes first, the chicken or the egg?" is finally answered. Male comes from All-Mother. Male and All-Mother are not equals at this stage. As male comes back through the womb, back into the manifestation of living spirit, this being is equal to the All-Mother. At the highest level, the divine masculine (the living spirit, the source of consciousness) and the divine feminine (the All-Mother, the source of material manifestation) have never been two, always one. At the peak experience, this fundamental unity is fully realized and embodied.
Phase 5: Integration and Continuation
After Reaching Peak Experience
Once practitioners have successfully navigated the complete journey and experienced the unity realization, they're encouraged to change partners and reach the same peak experience again so they do not become attached to any one specific person as the source of the experience. The experience is so profound that some practitioners feel they are falling in love with their partner. This is to be avoided. It's a step back if awakening is the true purpose. After having the experience with one or more new partners, any infatuation dissolves.
This serves important purposes:
Prevents fixation on one specific person
Reinforces that the experience comes from the energy work and presence, not the individual
Deepens understanding that these states are accessible through the practice itself
Dissolves the separation of one being seeking completion in another
A huge unexpected bonus of this work is the realization that trust is an ability one can develop. When people say they "don't trust easily," what they mean is the ability to trust has not been developed.
Maintaining the Practice
The transformative power of this work comes from learning to trust ourselves and the other, genuine spiritual intention rather than pleasure-seeking, falling in love with the cultivation of presence and awareness, and learning to climb to higher and higher states of insight and realization.
Important Reminders
This is advanced spiritual work requiring emotional maturity and genuine commitment. Approach with reverence, patience, and genuine desire for spiritual growth. Consider working with experienced teachers if possible. Remember that the energetic vulnerability created by this work makes the fluid exchange restrictions absolutely critical for your protection and progress.
The Golden Bridge practice offers a unique path to expanded consciousness through the sacred use of sexual energy. When approached with proper preparation, respect, and dedication, it can be a blast and facilitate profound spiritual realization and lasting transformation.
Vipassana Primer
Vipassana meditation is a non sectarian, straightforward, and direct path to the realization of Self, it was taught by Buddha after his awakening.
The most important point to remember is that:
“You are here to work and the work is not to think!”
This sounds simple and it will become so, but at first it is not easy and it will require your complete attention and commitment. The commitment is to stay present, not “trance out”, not fall asleep, and not let thinking distract. Everything in the course is set up to help you do just that, so that you have the opportunity to see for yourself what you are beyond the thinking mind.
Understand that what you are looking for is beyond the thinking mind. Thinking and words are symbols, abstractions, and concepts, what you’re looking for is an actual felt, experiential, realization of the self, a recognition of continuity of self that is here when you’re sleeping, when you’re dreaming, when you’re not thinking. Once you see it, the realization is very simple. That is what ‘Self-realization’ means. You simply recognize the self that has always been here all along and that it is you, your real, true, essential self. It is simple, but it's not easy because most of us don’t have enough focus and strength to not think for 7 minutes, much less 7 days and then be able to maintain the sense of self found there.
But it's okay, that is what vipassana is. It’s a bootcamp that will teach you the basics and practically show you how to get stronger. It takes a bit of effort initially to get past the layers of the thinking mind. I feel that it takes at least 3 days of all out ‘not thinking’ to get past all the mind layers, and that’s why vipassana is so valuable. Where else will you have the time to not think, where everything is provided for you so you can do just that?
For most people not thinking is impossible, even the attempt to not think sets the mind into the overdrive with thought. Try thinking about not thinking and you will find out very quickly that it is a difficult task. Thankfully Vipassana will teach you how to bypass thinking. I will leave most of the instruction to the teachers and just share the following with you. It turns out that we can not think and feel the sensations in the body at the same time. It is true, check for yourself. When your attention is occupied by thought you can not feel the sensation and when all of you attention is on feeling the sensation, you are not thinking. All you need to do to not think is give all of your attention ruthlessly and with total finality, to the feeling of sensation. Completely refuse a thought to interfere. I imagine walls on both sides of my head as I actively push away thoughts fixing my attention with every ounce of focus on feeling the sensation.
Thoughts will get through! A lot! Don't get mad, sad, or discouraged, just notice that you stopped feeling the sensation and simply return to it. Don’t fight it or kick the thinking mind, I find it best to just treat it the way you would a favorite pet that’s distracting you from work that’s due tomorrow. Develop a friendly relationship with it. Tell it that it can go do whatever it wants and that you’ll just be right here, sensing, let it go but don’t go with it. Remember, “You are here to work and the work is not to think.!”
During the course, the thinking mind will come in and try to distract you by telling you that that’s enough, to take it easy, that you can do more later. Acknowledge the mind but don’t believe it. Don't trust your thoughts. Understand that what the thinking mind is telling you is not actually true, the mind has an agenda and the agenda is to distract your attention. That does not mean that the thinking mind is an enemy, the mind is simply doing what it knows best--to doubt, distract, entertain, entice, escape, all to defend you from the direct gaze into the unknown. Don't trust your thoughts, doesn't mean demonize them nor does it mean to stop trusting your thoughts forever, just while you are on the sit. Remember what you are looking for can not be found in the thinking mind.
You will have to trust someone above your own thoughts and be willing to receive instruction to leave the place you are at currently. Just commit to doing exactly what is asked of you to the best of your ability. If you think of yourself as being stuck in a well, you will need to trust teachers helping hand that pulls you out. Once you're out, meaning that you have a personal experience of your true, essential self, you are free to choose the rest of the path for yourself. During my first vipassana I remember thinking to myself, “I don’t know if Goenkaji, the teacher, is a fully enlightened being, but he is more enlightened than I am in the moment, and that’s enough for me to be able to trust his instruction, to accept his guidance over my own thoughts for the 10 days, and take his hand to help my self up.”
You can always question your experience, the teachings and realizations after the sit, just don't let the doubts cheat you of a chance to have the experience of the real self while at the sit.
Look at your relationship with pain. After making sure that you are not in danger of injuring yourself, give the pain your full attention by moving into its very center rather than away, make friends with it, see what it is asking of you, look deeply into it and see what it is made of. My partner always thanks her body for going through this with her, lets it know how much she appreciates its presence, and how wonderful it is doing.
Notice how 2 minutes before the bell rings the mind goes on its most aggressive offensive, trying to convince you that you can’t go on, to make you move! Experiment with not going with it!
Every-time you make it to the bell, adds to your power and it’s cumulative. Don’t berate yourself if you don’t, but see how this 2 minutes rule is true and make the effort to go just 2 minutes more, every time you feel that you can’t go any further.
Commit!
I believe that vipassana is the quickest, most direct, and distraction-free way to learn how to really meditate. Appreciate your time here, don’t waste it. Put aside any doubt and commit from the very beginning to simply do what the teacher asks of you to the best of your ability.
I like to print out and sign the following before each course:
“I _______________________(your name) commit with un-resistance and unconditional love to do my best and allow myself to be guided by the teacher and teacher assistants and staff even if I think I know better in the moment. I commit to remain open and to receive the most I can from the teaching and do my best with my time here. So I will and so mote it be!”
______________________________
Your signature here.
No meditation is the same as the other.
Take each meditation period, each minute, as its own thing, on its own merit. Do not think about it in terms of having to sit for hours or days. Do not give your attention to anything except this minute this hour. Take each sit, each minute, as its own thing.
Each time when your mind tries to convince you that the present conundrum will never end, don’t believe it. Remember that there is absolutely nothing that the thinking mind can offer you in terms of realizing the self and everything, but everything it brings to the table is meant to distract.
The only regret I ever had after the course is that I did not work hard enough. Don’t miss the opportunity provided, don’t leave any room for doubt, give every moment everything you have.
Having said that, make sure to pick your battles. You will get distracted, lose your focus, give in to the thinking mind and that’s okay, don’t beat yourself up for not knowing how to do something you don’t know how to do, you’re just learning, just reset and start again. And there will be times when you’ll know that nothing can stop you, that today is the day! This is the time to throw everything you have behind this certainty, refuse to be distracted, to think, to move and with every stubborn molecule in your being, break through to the other side and see what is awaiting you just beyond.
If they can do it, so can you!
As difficult as the course may feel at any specific moment, just remember that if everyone else here can do it, is doing it, so can you!
Enjoy the dive!
True essential self.
Vipassana Primer
Buddha stated that the cause of suffering is confusion about what we really are due to the lack of knowledge of our true essential self. The experience of our true essential self is one of being unfragmented, unseparated, and fully connected—a state of unity, experiencing ourselves as a whole before any separation occurs. So what perpetuates our state of confusion is our unawareness of this essential experience as wholeness.
Wholeness is always present; we have to actively separate from it, often by incessantly thinking. Understanding how we actively separate day to day, minute to minute, is the path to reintegration into wholeness. There are no deliberate 'bad guys' causing confusion; mostly, it is the result of overwhelming traumatic experiences with other disconnected humans. The good news is that when we successfully reintegrate our separated parts, we experience ourselves as whole, and there are very efficient tools to assist in reintegrating them. Mindfulness, Parts Work, Magical Passes, Shielding, Dreamspell, and yoga are a few very effective practices I found consistently working for everyone who learned to use them.
The first time that we succeed in reintegrating a separated part can change our relationship to ourselves and to life in a very palpable way; we will begin to perceive the reality of wholeness or at least be aware that it is here. The collection of our separated parts is what we call ego and unconsciousness.
I find that the traumatized parts not only mistrust life situations but, as a way of protecting themselves, actually embrace resistance as the way of life and lose their ability to trust. I see this resistance as a part of my psyche (this life and maybe before) that has become separated, overwhelmed, and frozen by traumatic life experiences. I believe that the ego is a collection of these parts. I see frustrations and resentment as symptoms of these parts. When I am successful in identifying, loving, and integrating a part of the ego, I get momentary glimpses of a transcendent state until the next part takes over. But as each part is reintegrated, I feel more at home, calmer, and more capable of staying present.
I think that there might be a difference between what the old traditional ways are offering and what it takes modern Westerners to become realized. For us, the overwhelm is greater, the trauma deeper, and the defenses of the ego much, much thicker. Two thousand years ago, when a student came to the teacher, the teacher took a small hammer, hit the student's ego wall with it, the wall crumbled, the teacher pointed out the way, and told them to practice, and that was enough. Today, the teacher is still there after years of hammering the ego wall and still not getting through. Today's approach almost needs to be more like sculpting stone, rather than cracking a nut; it takes a lot more effort, time, and patience. And there is a lot more friction here that the traditional teachings may not be able to accommodate. In the old cultures, people did what the teachers said; today, teachers are given the bird behind their backs or to their face. :) We are more split, more defended, more traumatized, and with a stronger sense of separation. We identify more with our separated personas.
I like to think of my parts like bungee cords; no matter how far I go, they snap me back to the same state when the initial traumatic experience took place, until I do the work of identifying them, turning toward them with love and empathy, and helping them reintegrate by being the parent to them that I wished I had. :) And then do it again for as many parts as it takes. This turning inward has become a way of life. I am celebrating when I find the part these days; that is how I know I am growing. And this growing itself is becoming the joy, the direction, the way.
The agenda of the parts is to resist any emotion that feels like the original overwhelming emotion that caused separation. Our experience of ourselves as a whole is indivisible from our experience of the present moment. By resisting difficult emotions, we actively separate from the present moment. Any individual human being has a number of habitual ways to separate from having to feel difficult emotions and consequently separate from the present moment and our experience of ourselves as a whole self and its always present attribute of awareness, peace, love, and well-being. When we separate from the present experience by resisting a difficult emotion, for example, we experience ourselves as a small, limited entity in competition with the world, and this causes suffering experienced as the feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, frustration, impatience, fear, anger, resentment, pride, vanity, shame, and guilt, to name a few.
We usually project the cause of the difficult emotions onto others around us. When we become aware of the difficult emotions originating from our separated parts and turn toward them with empathy, patience, and a willingness to feel the difficult emotions, the part reintegrates. When the part reintegrates, we often experience the feeling of wholeness for a while until the next part takes over our awareness. Each time we do the work, our ability to remain present grows stronger.
Vipassana Primer
Vipassana meditation
is a non sectarian, straightforward, and direct path to the realization of Self, that was taught by Buddha
after his awakening.
Vipassana Primer
Vipassana meditation is a non sectarian, straightforward, and direct path to the realization of Self, it was taught by Buddha after his awakening.
The most important point to remember is that:
“You are here to work and the work is not to think!”
This sounds simple and it will become so, but at first it is not easy and it will require your complete attention and commitment. The commitment is to stay present, not “trance out”, not fall asleep, and not let thinking distract. Everything in the course is set up to help you do just that, so that you have the opportunity to see for yourself what you are beyond the thinking mind.
Understand that what you are looking for is beyond the thinking mind.
Thinking and words are symbols, abstractions, and concepts, what you’re looking for is an actual felt, experiential, realization of the self, a recognition of continuity of self that is here when you’re sleeping, when you’re dreaming, when you’re not thinking. Once you see it, the realization is very simple. That is what ‘Self-realization’ means. You simply recognize the self that has always been here all along and that it is you, your real, true, essential self. It is simple, but it's not easy because most of us don’t have enough focus and strength to not think for 7 minutes, much less 7 days and then be able to maintain the sense of self found there.
But it's okay, that is what vipassana is. It’s a bootcamp that will teach you the basics and practically show you how to get stronger. It takes a bit of effort initially to get past the layers of the thinking mind. I feel that it takes at least 3 days of all out ‘not thinking’ to get past all the mind layers, and that’s why vipassana is so valuable. Where else will you have the time to not think, where everything is provided for you so you can do just that?
For most people not thinking is impossible, even the attempt to not think sets the mind into the overdrive with thought. Try thinking about not thinking and you will find out very quickly that it is a difficult task. Thankfully Vipassana will teach you how to bypass thinking. I will leave most of the instruction to the teachers and just share the following with you. It turns out that we can not think and feel the sensations in the body at the same time. It is true, check for yourself. When your attention is occupied by thought you can not feel the sensation and when all of you attention is on feeling the sensation, you are not thinking. All you need to do to not think is give all of your attention ruthlessly and with total finality, to the feeling of sensation. Completely refuse a thought to interfere. I imagine walls on both sides of my head as I actively push away thoughts fixing my attention with every ounce of focus on feeling the sensation.
Thoughts will get through! A lot! Don't get mad, sad, or discouraged, just notice that you stopped feeling the sensation and simply return to it. Don’t fight it or kick the thinking mind, I find it best to just treat it the way you would a favorite pet that’s distracting you from work that’s due tomorrow. Develop a friendly relationship with it. Tell it that it can go do whatever it wants and that you’ll just be right here, sensing, let it go but don’t go with it. Remember, “You are here to work and the work is not to think.!”
During the course, the thinking mind will come in and try to distract you by telling you that that’s enough, to take it easy, that you can do more later. Acknowledge the mind but don’t believe it. Don't trust your thoughts. Understand that what the thinking mind is telling you is not actually true, the mind has an agenda and the agenda is to distract your attention. That does not mean that the thinking mind is an enemy, the mind is simply doing what it knows best--to doubt, distract, entertain, entice, escape, all to defend you from the direct gaze into the unknown. Don't trust your thoughts, doesn't mean demonize them nor does it mean to stop trusting your thoughts forever, just while you are on the sit. Remember what you are looking for can not be found in the thinking mind.
You will have to trust someone above your own thoughts and be willing to receive instruction to leave the place you are at currently. Just commit to doing exactly what is asked of you to the best of your ability. If you think of yourself as being stuck in a well, you will need to trust teachers helping hand that pulls you out. Once you're out, meaning that you have a personal experience of your true, essential self, you are free to choose the rest of the path for yourself. During my first vipassana I remember thinking to myself, “I don’t know if Goenkaji, the teacher, is a fully enlightened being, but he is more enlightened than I am in the moment, and that’s enough for me to be able to trust his instruction, to accept his guidance over my own thoughts for the 10 days, and take his hand to help my self up.”
You can always question your experience, the teachings and realizations after the sit, just don't let the doubts cheat you of a chance to have the experience of the real self while at the sit.
Look at your relationship with pain. After making sure that you are not in danger of injuring yourself, give the pain your full attention by moving into its very center rather than away, make friends with it, see what it is asking of you, look deeply into it and see what it is made of. My partner always thanks her body for going through this with her, lets it know how much she appreciates its presence, and how wonderful it is doing.
Notice how 2 minutes before the bell rings the mind goes on its most aggressive offensive, trying to convince you that you can’t go on, to make you move! Experiment with not going with it!
Every-time you make it to the bell, adds to your power and it’s cumulative. Don’t berate yourself if you don’t, but see how this 2 minutes rule is true and make the effort to go just 2 minutes more, everytime you feel that you can’t go any further.
Commit!
I believe that vipassana is the quickest, most direct, and distraction-free way to learn how to really meditate. Appreciate your time here, don’t waste it. Put aside any doubt and commit from the very beginning to simply do what the teacher asks of you to the best of your ability.
I like to print out and sign the following before each course:
“I _______________________(your name) commit with un-resistance and unconditional love to do my best and allow myself to be guided by the teacher and teacher assistants and staff even if I think I know better in the moment. I commit to remain open and to receive the most I can from the teaching and do my best with my time here. So I will and so mote it be!”
______________________________
Your signature here.
No meditation is the same as the other.
Take each meditation period, each minute, as its own thing, on its own merit. Do not think about it in terms of having to sit for hours or days. Do not give your attention to anything except this minute this hour. Take each sit, each minute, as its own thing.
Each time when your mind tries to convince you that the present conundrum will never end, don’t believe it. Remember that there is absolutely nothing that the thinking mind can offer you in terms of realizing the self and everything, but everything it brings to the table is meant to distract.
The only regret I ever had after the course is that I did not work hard enough. Don’t miss the opportunity provided, don’t leave any room for doubt, give every moment everything you have.
Having said that, make sure to pick your battles. You will get distracted, lose your focus, give in to the thinking mind and that’s okay, don’t beat yourself up for not knowing how to do something you don’t know how to do, you’re just learning, just reset and start again. And there will be times when you’ll know that nothing can stop you, that today is the day! This is the time to throw everything you have behind this certainty, refuse to be distracted, to think, to move and with every stubborn molecule in your being, break through to the other side and see what is awaiting you just beyond.
If they can do it, so can you!
As difficult as the course may feel at any specific moment, just remember that if everyone else here can do it, is doing it, so can you!
Enjoy the dive!
Golden Bridge Tantra
It all begins with an idea.
Golden Bridge Tantra
Overview
This is a tantric meditation that uses sexual energy as a pathway to expanded awareness and spiritual realization. The practice involves two partners working together to circulate life force energy through their bodies, ultimately leading to profound states of consciousness and spiritual realization.
In our current age, caught between Disney fantasy on one side and pornography on the other, this practice offers profound healing for our confused understanding of sexuality and relationship. Through direct experience, it helps us distinguish between sex, romance, intimacy, relationship, practice, partnership, trust, and authentic relating between the sexes. This practice serves as a balm for our inflamed knot of approval-seeking, attempts to belong through sex, submission, and manipulation, dissolving the confusion of never knowing who is right, what is right, or why.
This approach uses sexual energy in an entirely new way: to focus, to raise our awareness, and to give us a glimpse into what is actually real. And it's a lot more fun than sitting on a mountain by oneself.
The journey progresses through distinct phases: establishing safety and trust, learning to work with sexual energy without climax, circulating energy between bodies, and potentially reaching transcendent states of unity consciousness.
Phase 1: Preparation and Foundation
Understanding the Core Principle: No Fluid Exchange
This practice requires that no bodily fluids be exchanged between partners. When fluids are shared, it creates an energetic merging where you begin to experience your partner's emotional patterns and traumas. This can make people contract energetically, blocking the free flow of life force that this practice depends upon. Be religious about these boundaries. Once liquids are exchanged, the nature of the relating shifts drastically and the practice is no longer possible.
Comprehensive Fluid Exchange Protocol
During practice sessions:
Always wear a condom
If a condom breaks, use a douche immediately
No oral sex
No kissing
No sharing of any fluids whatsoever
Extended Lifestyle Restrictions
Energetic Protection and Vulnerability
Once we start to move large amounts of energy, we begin to feel euphoric and attract all sorts of entities that can be transferred through liquid exchange. Getting a dose of someone else's emotions in your cleared energetic space can set you back weeks, months, or if you do not even understand what happened, even years. This is why the fluid exchange restrictions are not merely precautionary but absolutely essential for protecting your energetic work.
Throughout the practice period, it is best to keep no liquid exchange with everyone in your life except committed partners. This means:
No sharing drinks or utensils (same spoon, etc.)
No sharing smoking materials (blunts, joints, pipes)
No kissing (except committed partners)
Essential Lifestyle Requirements
Daily Movement Practice
Practitioners must have some sort of daily flow practice like yoga, running, swimming, or similar movement work. Otherwise, the energy feels like a swamp, very hard to move. This daily practice keeps your energetic system clear and flowing.
Substance Restrictions
Practitioners cannot smoke anything or drink anything that would block the flow of life force. This includes alcohol, marijuana, or any other consciousness-altering substances that could interfere with the subtle energy work. This is not forever, but you have to give this work the best chance to succeed.
Session Timing and Preparation
Optimal Timing
It's important not to engage simply to be nice or to please the other. Both partners must genuinely feel the energetic call to practice. Sessions only take place when both partners feel their libido rising.
Session Duration Evolution
Beginner sessions typically last 1 to 2 hours as you build capacity and trust. Advanced sessions can extend to 15 hours, not because you intend this, but because all of a sudden 15 hours have passed and you don't know where they went due to altered time perception.
Day-of Preparation Protocol
Sessions are usually in the evening (PM) in case it runs long.
Light meal (avoid heavy eating)
Strength workout to raise testosterone
Cold shower before the session
Coordinate which body oils are most appealing to both partners
Begin with light massage and slowly transition into the practice
Session Frequency
Sessions typically occur every 2 to 3 days, based on libido rather than a rigid schedule. After the initial 3 to 4 weeks of practice, couples' libidos begin to synchronize.
Choosing the Right Partner
The ideal partner for this practice is someone you feel neutral toward, neither repulsed by nor infatuated with. This neutrality is crucial because strong attraction can create distracting thoughts about performance or approval-seeking, and repulsion creates energetic blocks that prevent the practice from working. Neutrality allows you to focus entirely on the energy work itself.
Trust has to be earned and tuned into. Both partners need to release projections and expectations about sex and relationships to engage in this practice as a pure spiritual discipline like yoga. No attachments, no expectations, no demands, just earnest showing up and doing your best to open, open, open.
Establishing Sacred Agreement
Before beginning, both partners must clearly understand and agree that this is a spiritual practice, and we commit to no attachment. This is not recreational sex nor a romantic relationship. Both are committed to keeping their word to each other, earning each other's trust that is essential in the final stages of the work.
Phase 2: Physical Setup and Energy Circulation
Positioning and Eye Contact
We always practice in the missionary position because throughout the whole session, we need to remain looking into each other's eyes. Do not close your eyes. Do not let your partner disappear inward into fantasy or dissociation. Stay present and keep your partner present.
After a while, you will immediately know when your partner's attention begins to shift away from presence. Bring them back into the present moment by softly saying "open, open, open" while opening and running energy yourself.
The Microcosmic Orbit: Understanding Energy Flow
The core of this practice is circulating life force energy between both bodies in a continuous loop.
Male's Role
Push energy down through the penis into the female's vagina
Receive energy into the heart from the female
Send that heart energy back down to the penis to complete the circuit
Female's Role
Open the vagina to receive energy from the male
Draw that energy up to the heart center
Push this energy from the heart into the male's heart
Tracking the Energy
We already discussed the importance of staying present and maintaining eye contact. Now we will add tracking the energy flow.
While moving and maintaining eye contact, both partners try to feel where the energy is moving in themselves and in the other.
Visualization Technique
It's useful to visualize the movement of the energy to make it easier to track the flow. Start by visualizing the orbit of the energy moving through both bodies like a circuit. Place an imaginary ping-pong ball into that orbit and simply keep track of where the ping-pong ball is moving in the circuit. Focus on following this ball as it travels down through the male's penis, into the female's vagina, up to her heart, across to his heart, and back down to complete the loop.
While doing this, keep the thought "open, open, open" in your mind. If you notice your partner struggling to stay open, you can also gently say this aloud to remind both of you that what you are really doing is opening all the way out while maintaining the sexual energy flow to generate more life force awareness that leads to greater realization of the ultimate truth.
Identifying and Clearing Blocks
Common male pattern: easy to send energy through the penis, difficult to open the heart and receive
Common female pattern: easy to open the heart and send energy, challenging to fully open and receive through the vagina
When either person contracts or blocks, energy concentrates instead of flowing. This often triggers the male's desire to orgasm as a way to release stored energy. The goal is maintaining smooth, even circulation rather than accumulation or forcing.
The Stop Protocol
When either partner (usually the male, as it's typically harder for males not to orgasm in the beginning) says "stop," all movement ceases immediately. No exceptions, no pushing forward, no "just a little more." Even one movement past the word "stop" can destroy weeks of trust-building. This discipline is essential for the practice's success.
Phase 3: Building Trust Through Edging Practice
Edging Practice
Edging is the practice of staying at the edge of orgasm without going over. How long it takes to move past the orgasmic urge varies for each person and situation. Patience is absolutely essential. This cannot be rushed.
The Plateau Development
With consistent practice, the orgasmic plateau begins to rise and expand. What once triggered immediate climax becomes a sustainable state of heightened arousal. Eventually, the edge disappears entirely, allowing for extended periods of high-energy connection.
Recognizing the Energetic Shift
Once you no longer need to slow down out of fear of orgasming and become able to go at full speed, you will notice that the energy you're receiving becomes a lot greater than what you're expending. This indicates you've moved beyond personal energy exchange and begun tapping into universal life force. This moment marks a significant breakthrough in the practice.
Phase 4: Expanded States of Consciousness
The Golden Energy Experience
As the practice deepens and energy flows freely, practitioners often start to perceive the orbiting life force as liquid gold with a distinctive feel and taste. This is the Golden Bridge.
In these states:
Time perception shifts dramatically (hours feel like minutes)
Awareness becomes heightened and blissful
The blissful state can persist for three to four days after practice
Connection to universal life force becomes palpable
Enjoy this phase fully.
The All-Mother Opening
As the female partner continues opening without contracting or shutting down, she opens into what's called the All-Mother, a vast, nurturing, universal feminine presence that transcends her individual identity.
Important note: as the female opens into the All-Mother, the male experiences a regression back to being an infant in response. No erection, no sexual activity is possible for him at this stage. This is how male and All-Mother energy naturally interact.
Sacred Regression
In the presence of the All-Mother energy, the male partner starts to experience regression back to earlier states of being.
The Regression Process
Return to infancy (which can feel very vulnerable; all that trust earned earlier in practice begins to pay off)
Maternal nurturing, the female is encouraged to nurture this state, perhaps offering her breast for suckling as a mother would
Womb experience, with deeper opening, the regression continues back through the womb experience
Pure spirit emergence, finally, the male emerges as pure spirit before incarnation
The Ultimate Realization
Through direct experience rather than intellectual understanding, practitioners discover the male, as male form, emerges from the female principle, and the answer to the age-old question "what comes first, the chicken or the egg?" is finally answered. Male comes from All-Mother. Male and All-Mother are not equals at this stage. As male comes back through the womb, back into the manifestation of living spirit, this being is equal to the All-Mother. At the highest level, the divine masculine (the living spirit, the source of consciousness) and the divine feminine (the All-Mother, the source of material manifestation) have never been two, always one. At the peak experience, this fundamental unity is fully realized and embodied.
Phase 5: Integration and Continuation
After Reaching Peak Experience
Once practitioners have successfully navigated the complete journey and experienced the unity realization, they're encouraged to change partners and reach the same peak experience again so they do not become attached to any one specific person as the source of the experience. The experience is so profound that some practitioners feel they are falling in love with their partner. This is to be avoided. It's a step back if awakening is the true purpose. After having the experience with one or more new partners, any infatuation dissolves.
This serves important purposes:
Prevents fixation on one specific person
Reinforces that the experience comes from the energy work and presence, not the individual
Deepens understanding that these states are accessible through the practice itself
Dissolves the separation of one being seeking completion in another
A huge unexpected bonus of this work is the realization that trust is an ability one can develop. When people say they "don't trust easily," what they mean is the ability to trust has not been developed.
Maintaining the Practice
The transformative power of this work comes from learning to trust ourselves and the other, genuine spiritual intention rather than pleasure-seeking, falling in love with the cultivation of presence and awareness, and learning to climb to higher and higher states of insight and realization.
Important Reminders
This is advanced spiritual work requiring emotional maturity and genuine commitment. Approach with reverence, patience, and genuine desire for spiritual growth. Consider working with experienced teachers if possible. Remember that the energetic vulnerability created by this work makes the fluid exchange restrictions absolutely critical for your protection and progress.
The Golden Bridge Tantric practice offers a unique path to expanded consciousness through the sacred use of sexual energy. When approached with proper preparation, respect, and dedication, it can be a blast and facilitate profound spiritual realization and lasting transformation.